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Vol. 3 & 4 9 / 2001 |
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HEALTHY ATMOSTPHERE
K. Sri Dhammananda
Jokes
and remarks directed at you in bad taste should be deflected with good
humour. This is one way avoid enmity
with anybody. Losing your cool while
playing the game will get you strung up.
You will forfeit a possible win.
That will even spoil the pleasure
of those watching the game.
There is no way you can change
everyone in this world to your way of thinking. It is not even desirable.
If everyone agrees with you, the world will soon run out of ideas.
There are many ways of
correcting a person when he is wrong.
By criticizing, blaming and railing at him in public, you will be
humiliating and not correcting him.
Criticism is certain to make more enemies. If you can show concern for a man’s future good with kind words,
he will thank you for it someday.
Never use harsh or unpleasant
words whenever you express your views on issues. Diplomacy, gentleness and politeness do not hurt anybody. In fact they will open many doors.
Do not feel defensive when your
own faults are pointed out. Your faults
are your signposts for learning perfection.
Temper is a poor camouflage for shortcomings. When someone loses his temper he will blurt out too may things
better left unsaid. Never reveal a
former friend’s personal secret no matter how angry you are with him now. You will only degrade yourself in the
process and others could never accept you as sincere friend thereafter. Others will think you could do the same
thing you did to injure a former friend:
No one will trust you.